End Family Court Trauma
Family court dockets are bulging with "high conflict" custody disputes. However, these cases are NOT about custody but are serious domestic abuse and child abuse cases that warrant immediate protection. The conflict and abuse is most often driven and escalated by one parent with a an unrecognized relationally destructive impairment. The most common illness in family court has been found to fall into the Cluster B Personality Disorders, particularly narcissistic and/or borderline personality disorder. While we all can emphasize with a parent who is mentally ill, the primary issue in these cases is to protect the other parent and the children from chronic abuse and neglect. Family court professionals must use the scientific knowledge and recognize documented evidence of the childhood trauma to safeguard the family and while still allowing the child to have a relationship with both parents.
By the time dysfunctional families enter into family court the mentally healthy parent has been the target of the other parents need for power and control for years. The marriage and now the divorce is one of an abuser-victim relationship. The targeted parent shows signs of complex trauma from the prolonged interpersonal emotional abuse.
Family courts routinely misinterpret the targeted parents symptoms of trauma as evidence of emotional instablity.
Child psychological Maltreatment
Child psychological maltreatment is emotional abuse and neglect. High-conflict family court in and of itself is emotionally neglectful to children because their parents are embroiled in their own issues of mental illness and trauma.
A hallmark of severe child psychological abuse and neglect by an impaired caregiver is that he or she will triangulate the child into a cross generational coalition against the targeted parent. The child is coerced to believe that he or she will be abandoned by both parents if he or she doesn't align with the more powerful parent and devalue and discard the other parent. The only way a child can reject a healthy parent is to suppress his or her secure attachment to that parent and resist contact. This behavior is misinterpreted by the court as evidence that the targeted parent has done something to deserve to be rejected.