The best advice for targeted parents who are in
family court for custody is....
Protection Not custody
Family court dockets are bulging with "high conflict" custody disputes. High conflict custody disputes are NOT about custody at all but serious family abuse cases driven and escalated by one parent with a dangerous Cluster B personality disorder. A parent with a narcissistic (borderline) personality disorder is the most dangerous parent and partner there is, yet authorities who have the responsibility to protect targeted parents and their children are either blatantly incompetent, arrogantly corrupt or both. The stakes are too high for any loving parent to risk placing the decisions about parenting in the hands of incompetent and/or corruptFamily Court Judges, Commissioners, lawyers (especially Guardian ad litems), mediators, custody evaluators and others working with "high conflict" custody cases.
Cash vs conscience
Members of the American Bar Association are both self-regulating and self-serving. In other words, "success" in family law is measured by how much money a single lawyer or GAL makes in a given year, not whether the children are placed with the abusive or safe parent. In fact, there is absolutely NO "real" incentive to protect children or innocent parents at all.
If "success" was measured by the health and well-being of the family instead of billable hours, family law would welcome oversight and evaluation for continuations improvement. However, family court is so over-focused on the chaos and confusing created by the abusive parent that they never consider the fact that impaired parents are the number 1 source of childhood trauma in America.
Educating family court is the key. We must get the word to everyone in family court about who we are and what we need.
Family courts do not know anything about dysfunctional families like ours, so we need to provide them as much accurate, simple and clear information as we can.
This brochure explains who we are, our vision and mission, what high conflict family court is, what adverse childhood experiences that our children are being exposed to and the clinical symptoms of child psychological/emotional abuse.
Download this and keep copies with you to give to everyone you meet.