Strategic Plan: 2018

The National Alliance For Targeted Parents (NATP) ( is a grassroots organization representing approximately 22 million non-abusive parents fighting to protect their children from the other parent who displays abusive patterns of power and control using coercive control.  These traits are seen commonly in parents who have relationally destructive personality disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).

For decades, healthy, nurturing parents have lost their children to the other, abusive parent in family court .  This happens because the abuser appears calm while the “targeted” parent and children are relentlessly traumatized.  Targeted parents are further re-victimized and marginalized by the staggering lack of support from law enforcement, mental health, Child Protective Services and legal professionals. 

The National Alliance For Targeted Parents is made up of  parents with lived experience in severely dysfunctional families where they have been manipulated and controlled by the other abusive/impaired parent and could find no help in stopping the ongoing child psychological maltreatment.  We promote the use of a trauma informed, evidenced based resolution to high-conflict family court disputes, so that every child can have a safe relationship with both parents.

NATP's mission is to advance the application of the profound science of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) to protect children entrenched in high-conflict family court disputes.

ACES cluster in high-conflict family court cases because of the abusive nature of the impaired parent. Children who are caught in high-conflict family court disputes have ACE scores of 6+.  This score reflects not only the ACES but the loss of the child's only healthy and resilient parent when family court does not protect the relationship between the child and the targeted parent. 

children of parents in high-conflict family court disputes are exposed to at least the first 6 ACES, but it is more likely that their ACE scores are higher. 

1. Living with an impaired and abusive caregiver.

2. Witnessing domestic abuse, particularly coercive control or emotional abuse.

3. Exposure to chronic psychological/emotional abuse.

4. Exposure to chronic psychological/emotional neglect.

5. Prolonged exposure to high-conflict divorce. 

6. Loss of a healthy, nurturing parent.

7. Criminality – Refusing to follow court orders, in particular interfere with placement, perjury, false allegations of abuse, and coercing the child to resist or reject placement with the healthy, targeted parent.

8. Substance Abuse

9. Physical Abuse and/or neglect.

10. Sexual Abuse


Other Goals

Goal 1. Unify parents and supporters under The National Alliance For    

             Targeted Parents.

Goal 2. Launch the End Family Court Trauma initiative.

Goal 3.  Promote a professional working relationship between targeted

              parents and the schools that their children attend.

         3.1 Provide instructions and materials to help open the dialogue between targeted parents and school personnel.

3.2 Create a professional development program for all educational staff. (Done)

3.3 Credential the program and obtain professional support. (working)

3.4 Present the program to school health professionals at annual meetings. (2017-2018)

3.5 Train and credential targeted parents to present this program in their home states.

Goal 4. Challenge the competency and ethics of mental health providers in

             identifying and reporting child psychological abuse and neglect and

             severe interpersonal trauma by narcissistic/borderline parents. 

4.1 Demand mental health providers competence in ACEs, trauma informed care, child psychological abuse and neglect, narcissistic and/or borderline pathogenic parenting, recovery modalities.

4.2 Provide resources as necessary.

4.3   Hold providers accountable for assessing, diagnosing and treating your family paying special attention to:

The amelioration(reduction/elimination)of symptoms over time.      

4.4 File licensing board complaints for providers who fall below the minimum ethical standards of care and those who fail in their duty to protect (do not file child psychological abuse report).

Goal 5. Pressure child protective services to adopt an efficient and

             effective protocol to stop child psychological abuse by

             relationally harmful parents.

5.1   File child psychological abuse reports to child protective services according to state statutes, clinical indicators and associated clinical symptoms as necessary.

5.2 Escalate the report until action is taken.