Strategic Plan: 2017

The National Alliance For Targeted Parents (NATP) ( is a grassroots organization representing approximately 22 million non-abusive parents fighting to protect their children from the other parent who displays fixed narcissistic and/or borderline personality disordered traits.

For decades the healthy, nurturing parents have lost their children to mentally ill, abusive parents in Family Court .  This happens because the abuser appears calm while the “targeted” parent and children are relentlessly traumatized.  Targeted parents are further re-victimized and marginalized by the staggering lack of support from law enforcement, mental health, Child Protective Services and legal professionals. 

NATP continues to bridge a gap with the schools, the National Council for Juvenile and Family Court Judges, Child Protective Services, and mental health providers.  Thousands of targeted parents sent letters and 2 petitions to the American Psychological Association.  The APA has agreed to assemble a task force to investigate high conflict divorce and custody.  Still, we have not been able to make any changes or save even one child.  

We are parents with lived experiences that know just about everything there is to know about narcissistic/borderline abusers.  We also have an evidenced based solution, but it requires protective separation for 4-9 months.  After that, the children can have a relationship with both parents.

It is time to position us with the ACES movement.  Abandoning a child to live with a parent who has a relationally dangerous mental illness (Cluster B) causes lifelong mental, emotional, and relational impairments. Our children have ACE scores of 6+, including losing their only healthy and resilient parent. 

The Cluster of ACES for Narcissistic/borderline parents includes, but is not limited to:

1. Live with an untreated, narcissistic and/or borderline personality disordered parent.  These are the most common and harmful mental illnesses.

2. Witness domestic abuse/violence.

3. Psychological abuse.

4. Psychological neglect.

5. High Conflict Divorce and Custody (Emotional Neglect).

    The abuser uses the children as shields and weapons of abuse by proxy.

6. Criminality – Domestic violence, Interfering with placement, stalking, perjury, coercing the children to disobey court orders and lie to authorities.

7. Loss of a healthy, nurturing parent.

8. Substance Abuse

9. Physical Abuse

10. Sexual Abuse


Other Goals

Goal 1. Unify parents and supporters under The National Alliance For Targeted Parents.

Goal 2.  Promote a professional working relationship between Targeted Parents and the schools that their children attend.

         2.1Provide instructions and materials to help open the dialogue between targeted parents and school personnel.

2.2Create a professional development program for all educational staff. (Done)

2.3Credential the program and obtain professional support. (working)

2.4Present the program to school health professionals at annual meetings. (2017-2018)

2.5Train and credential targeted parents to present this program in their home states.

Goal 3. Challenge the competency and ethics of mental health providers in identifying and reporting child psychological abuse and neglect and severe interpersonal trauma by narcissistic/borderline parents. 

3.1 Demand mental health providers competence in ACEs, trauma informed care, child psychological abuse and neglect, narcissistic and/or borderline pathogenic parenting, recovery modalities.

3.2 Provide resources as necessary.

3.3   Hold providers accountable for assessing, diagnosing and treating your family paying special attention to:

The amelioration(reduction/elimination )of symptoms/time

3.4 File licensing board complaints for providers who fall below the minimum ethical standards of care and those who fail in their duty to protect (do not file child psychological abuse report).

Goal 4. Pressure child protective services to adopt an efficient and effective protocol to stop child psychological abuse by narcissistic/borderline parents.

4.1   File child psychological abuse reports to child protective services according to state statutes, clinical indicators and associated clinical symptoms as necessary.

4.2 Escalate the report until action is taken.

Goal 5. Challenge family court’s lack of trauma informed practice, mistaken assumptions, lawless and bias procedures and their direct role in perpetuating child psychological abuse and neglect.

Goal 6. Advance our standing with the APA as a special population of families where one parent is psychologically/emotionally abusive due to his or her narcissistic/borderline personality disorder.  

Goal 7.  Get the public’s attention of narcissistic/borderline abuse by launching periodic media blitzes.

 7.1. Write and schedule press releases

 7. 2. Schedule Radio programming

7.3. Recruit Professional bloggers

7.4. Write Alliance Blog – push to 10,000

7. 5. Contact, recruit Special Audiences: domestic violence, child abuse, narcissistic/borderline, attachment trauma, licensing boards for social work, counseling, marriage and family, psychologists, AFCC, ABA section on family, professional speakers, PA leadership, Authors