Last week I received an email from the Wisconsin Department of Safety and Professional Services; Division of Legal Services and Compliance. Among other things it said,
The Marriage and Family Therapist Section screening panel will review and evaluate your complaint at their November 30th meeting and the Social Worker Section screening panel will review and evaluate your complaint at their December 16 meeting. Each screening panel will evaluate all the treatment that your therapist provided and if the treatment fell below the minimal standard of care, then they can discipline that therapist.
That’s all I needed to hear! If either panel decides to discipline this therapist that will be the least of his concerns! I’m going shopping for a malpractice lawyer!
Before I filed my licensing board complaint, actually long before my family ever saw this therapist, I had checked him out pretty carefully. I looked up his credentials and I had a good idea of what the standards of practice were for Marriage and Family Therapists in Wisconsin. Then, I talked to him directly, explained my situation and my concerns and asked him if he thought he could help. I even discussed his previous experience with my personal therapist.
This therapist had had government contracts for providing intensive family interventions with the most troubled families in the inner city. He told me that he subscribed toBowen’s family systems theory, and was a master at working with people who had narcissistic personality disorders. I was pretty confident that I had found the best therapist in the area for our Family Court ordered intervention. I couldn’t wait!
It had taken 4 years to get my ex-husband to participate in this intervention. He had never followed one family court order and masterfully sabotaged countless orders for therapy between my children and me. However, by this time we were in criminal court, and that is an entirely different ball game. The Judge ruled that my ex-husband had a choice of participating in this intervention or going to jail. When my-ex-husband “swore on a stack of bibles” that he would make reconnecting my children and I his top priority, both the Judge and I knew he was lying. I knew that he would get my children to burn me at the stake to get him off the hook. They did. I didn’t.
This intensive family intervention was my very last chance to do something that would make a difference in my kids’ lives, and I had the probation officer alerted that I would call her if he didn’t show up.
He did show up, flanked by a child on each side. The intervention was more like a homecoming game for my ex-husband and I was the “away” team. I’ve posted my complaint here, but you really had to be there to believe it.
I don't know if I will ever stop being
surprised by the bizarre events
that accompany a person with
narcissistic personality disorder.
I have to give credit to Dr. Craig Childress for my back up plan; filing a licensing board complaint. I’ve never done anything like this before, but I felt confident.
It helped that I understood the seriousness of this pathology and how the therapist would have to assess for it. It helped that I knew that there must be substantiated evidence and a diagnosis. It helped that I knew that every therapist has to have a written treatment plan clearly indicating how the techniques to be used should resolve the problem and eliminate the symptoms (in a reasonable amount of time). It helped that I knew that the therapist was supposed to have shared this with us and it helped that I knew the standards of practice that this therapist could be held accountable for.
It really helped that I knew these things before we started the intervention, because I was able to immediately recognize which standards of practice were missing.
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